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be swept away by your online presence.
As you know, I’m a Mormon, a “young single adult Mormon”
so I may fall into some stereotypes in your mind.
"Why is she not married?"
EVERYONE THAT WANTS TO MARRY ME,
I DONT WANT TO MARRY.
AND EVERYONE I WANTED TO MARRY,
DIDNT WANT TO MARRY ME,
Not to hard of formula right,
The law of attraction remains in force.
After my mission, I wanted to be married,
so I started to have thoughts that lead unto actions unto marriage.
And 3, 300 Facebook friends later and
I knew that was only one thing I could do,
There is really only one thing I had control over:
I had dated enough to know what I DID NOT WANT.
This was a very safe place for me,
because as I avoided what I didn’t what, the possibilities
of what I wanted grew and grew.
Some search for exactly what they want. That wasn't me.
Who was I to declare such expectation to the confusing and busy world?
Throughout the friend-turn-crush-turn-relationship-sometimes-turn-friendzone process
I had so many good experiences.
By staying away from what I didn't want, I was introduced to the threshold of uncertainty
to know if I really wanted something or not in a potential suitor.
If I said that I would only date guys taller than me,
Ask about that one, perhaps it would generate a another blog post.
was one of my way of communicating to the Lord that Celestial Marriage
I wanted to see what
I wanted my faith to grow.
My mission president will tell you,
ELDER, be comfortable with being uncomfortable.
I learned pretty easy that this is true, as an 8 yr. old politician’s daughter,
going door to door,
petitioning voters to vote and
vote for Neil Hansen November 4th.
I met tons of great guys
but the odds were there. but it was FISHING.. or finding in Jack's words.
And perhaps even a catfish.
Being deliberate and investigating was key!
tons of guys that were afraid of online dating!
As if a mobile app soften the reality that fishing must happen to make things happen.
I had 3 tinder dates set up,
which I think it’s exactly what you should
be doing if you haven’t caught the catch you want.
I attended the singles ward regularly;
I complimented guys to their face.
I gave them what I call “EXTRA ATTENTION”
If I wasn’t sure how I felt about them but wondered if there was potential,
I'd examine that fish to see it was a potential catch.
and it never hurt the guy that I pursued.
Once, a rumor was given to be that a guy liked me..
He was a catch.. I found out all his favorite smoothie and ice cream shops.
I bought gift cards in the exact amounts of 2 servings, so he could take me out
when he found out I thought he was a catch.
I took these to his house. I heart attacked his door!
I video taped...
Days later I found out he had NO interest in me.
but it didn’t matter because
And I wanted alot of experiences that would provide me with the knowledge and faith to know.
The important thing to remember is that
certain bait attracts certain fish.
My divorce guy friend text me last week: A
LL GIRLS ARE BAD BLAH BLAH BLAH…
aren’t the fish that would be good for me to take home.
Me Me Me, my problems…
I knew I had to answer yes because I needed to exercise faith.
“Each guy that you go out with,
And the timing was perfect.
of life experiences, trials, down falls, and goodness.
or interviewing is even safe
if you haven’t been in a couple semiserious relationships,
if you haven't been in a serious relationship,
Again exercising faith.
and I told everyone how great this guy was that
I had only been on one date within three months.
I even thought be liked me.haha.
Which I didnt know at the time, do we ever?
Facebook group titled: LDS MIDSINGLES OF THE WORLD.
There were 3,000 plus members in here fishing.
which immediately caught my attention,
how to fish or FIND fish and I was in that same business too.
But I did not think anything of him or
even of him requesting my friendship on Facebook,
he lived in Kentucky and more importantly,
I had a crush on a guy that didn’t even like me back and that was draining.
I told my bishopric wives about this awesome guy
who I didn’t know that he didn’t like me back,
but these wise women knew, specifically,
I will name drop the saint, Lydia Tribe said:
Don’t text him back,
if he is interested he will gather up the gust to do so.
I hated hearing that,
I had given him loyal extra attention and our one date was fun!
Now days we skype endlessly.
we asked each other the heavy questions.
Finances, raising kids, education, commitment to covenants.
And we felt the same, and when we Skype we just stared at each other.
that we still grow together each day,
and the unique thing about having the same goals is that it gives
you every ample opportunity to become one when you have a difference of opinion.
Heavenly Father knew my heart and I just tried my best,
often failing in my mind,
to keep my fishing pools in the water regardless of the season of my life.
And maybe even when I didn't want to.
This is being comfortable being uncomfortable.
in my power to be led to a catch,
thinking there might be something better,
or thinking that another fish was wading away
that once that fish is pulled out of the water
enough to know to keep it or not,
or being the fish reeled in prepares
you for what you need to learn and become.
Posted by Jenny Hansen Lane at 7:51:00 AM
03 November 2013
There is always something to be grateful for.
Can dopamine increase our gratitude?
Its happening to me now.
It should be found in every romantic relationship.
Not in an competitive, I'll beat you at this crossfit workout, but a competitive edge to want to be your best self as you serve and love your significant other.
ESPECIALLY from the get go.
That's what turns one date into two dates and so on and so forth.
AND THEN FILL UP SOMEONES DOPAMINE BUCKET
Posted by Jenny Hansen Lane at 9:52:00 AM
01 November 2013
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